What Really Changed During the First Year of Marriage

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Warning: Mushy, personal post ahead. 😉

Growing up, I was taught that marriage is a sweet and sacred commitment that is never to be taken lightly. My parents have been married for over 37 years, and I’ve witnessed them love hard, argue hard, and face every challenge in life as a united team. They got married when my mom was still in college. They moved into a small Airstream camper, for their first year of marriage, to make ends meet. It was their first time living together and they experienced all these new “firsts” as a married couple. That was the norm back then.

But now? Now, The Knot reports as many as 76% of couples live together before walking down the aisle. With that, you learn their ticks, their habits, and experience all of those “firsts” before making the commitment of marriage.

When my now-husband and I bought our first home together, we were in no rush to get married. After all, the cohabiting commitment was basically marriage, rightIn fact, Time reports that approximately 25% of Millennials will never get married. Could that be because we’re so comfortable going through life as just a committed couple? When I thought of marriage, it was like “why?”. We’ll be going home to the same home, the same bed, and the same routine, just as we did before marriage.

But I still had desires of a family, and to me, that started with marriage. So eventually, everything fell into place and it felt like the right time to get married. As we approached our dream wedding, I wondered, “what will really change once we’re married?”. Most people told us nothing would change at all, and I believed it.

But I was wrong.

Since I walked down that aisle on November 13, 2016, something huge changed.

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I loved him more.

 

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It’s not that I didn’t already love him with my whole heart, because I did. I know many couples say they fall more in love with every passing day, and now I get it. It’s the whole “I love you so much it hurts in a good way” kinda thing. I suddenly looked at the man I’d been doing life with for 5 years and realized I loved him with a love I didn’t know existed until we said “I do”. (And yes, I’ve heard this happens all over again when you have a child, but I’m clinging onto this feeling with just him for a moment). 😉

And with all that love, I respect him that much more. I catch myself being kinder, happier, more appreciative, and undeniably loyal. He, alone, is my family. We both have our separate families, and we all became one, but Marc-André is my other half. One day, it will be more than the two of us, but I’ll always remember these sweet moments of being a family of two.

We’ve faced some incredibly challenging moments over the past 365 days, due to outside forces. And looking back at it all, I am so grateful that I had my husband by my side, lifting me up, and pushing me through it all. I know he would have done just the same as my boyfriend, but on my hardest days, I found an intense comfort in being his wife.

Honestly, everything in our relationship changed in the first year of marriage.

It all got stronger.

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So in honor of our one year anniversary, the first of many more, I’m finally sharing our wedding video with the public. It’s such a personal, emotional, and meaningful part of our life, and we’ve always kept it to ourselves and close ones. But what better way to celebrate this beautiful day than by sharing our most magical moments?! I hope you enjoy!

And tell me, did anything change in your first year of marriage?!

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  • It’s amazing all that goes on during that first year isn’t it?! I vaguely remember my first year, we didn’t live together before we got married, but I do remember it being an adjustment. The love sure grows too doesn’t it. Love your sweet post!

    • Katherine

      I bet moving in together after marriage made it that much more exciting (and scary)! But I think half the fun of marriage is getting through all the “firsts” together, as a team. 🙂 Thanks for reading!!

  • I legit cried throught the whole video! You sister’s speech made me really emotional as I’m a the bigger sister too. You were stunning! Happy anniversary!

    • Katherine

      Aww!! My sister and I are closer than ever so it’s so special to have her speech on there. 🙂 Thanks so much for the kind words!

  • Caitlin Patton

    Your video is amazing! I am in love with your dress. Happy anniversary!

    • Katherine

      Thank you so so much!

  • AWE this melted my heart! you two are so cute and amazing and ugh my heart! I don’t have words. I honestly didn’t think anything changed in our first year of marriage, but after reading this I totally agree, our relationship just became stronger. Our love deeper which I didn’t think was possible but this is exactly how it felt<3 Happy anniversary you two 🙂

    • Katherine

      Aw thank you!!!! You’re seriously the best at making me feel like a million bucks! Haha so glad you liked it and could relate to the post!

  • Aw such a sweet post! You all are such a gorgeous couple and those photos are beautiful!

    • Katherine

      Thank you so much! That’s so sweet!

  • This is so sweet ❤️ And yes, EVERYTHING changes when you get married. You feel secure, you trust more, you love more. We just had our second anniversary last month, and it just keeps getting better.

    • Katherine

      Yes, yes, yes! Nobody ever really mentioned that to me when we were getting married, but it’s been such a sweet surprise to experience it all. 🙂 Happy anniversary to you!

  • Aww this is so sweet and I totally agree with this!

    • Katherine

      Aw, thank you!

  • Allison Ellzey

    Freaking loved this! We are approaching our one year anniversary and I so know what you mean!

    • Katherine

      Aw, yay! Happy early anniversary! So glad you can relate 🙂

  • Magen Daniella Golden

    This is the sweetest thing ever.

    • Katherine

      Aw, thank you!!!

  • Taylor Smith

    You are GORGEOUS! These pictures are stunning.

    • Katherine

      Omg thank you so much!

  • Becca

    Beautiful pictures! Thanks for sharing about your experience. It’s so good to know that love changes you to a better person 🙂 wishing you the best!

  • Lori Hilliard

    After I married my husband, I relaxed a bit about the future because I was confident that he would be there no matter what to support me. Being married cemented that commitment for us because it would no longer be easy to walk away from each other. We’d created a bond that couldn’t easily be broken; one that we can rely on no matter what the future holds. I love knowing that!

  • What a sweet post! It’s so crazy to me how many millennials do not want to get married – I don’t understand it!

  • Awwww…thanks for sharing this personal thoughts and reflections of your married life. I just did the same thing, telling the things I’ve learned on our 21 months of marriage. Keep on inspiring us with your strong relationship, girl. And keep that love burning. <3

    -Gerome of G&D Blog
    http://www.gdblog.net

  • Sara Jane

    I could watch the video over and over! I know how deeply you and Marc have loved one another since practically the very beginning of your relationship so it’s amazing to see that grow stronger and stronger!

  • omgosh. I didn’t think id watch that whole video but I did! Your wedding was beautiful. AND YOUR VOWS!!! amazing. My hubs and I are from Florida too! We got married in Sarasota!

  • Such a beautiful post and lovely video! 🙂

  • Erin Nicole Brooks

    Your video is so beautiful! It had me crying!! Congrats on your first year!

  • This is beautiful! I’m so glad I found your blog 🙂

    • Katherine

      That’s so sweet!!! I’m glad you found it too! 🙂