How To Travel With Another Couple (And Stay Friends!)

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Traveling is fun, and traveling with someone you love is that much better. Then you find that couple that loves traveling, too, and decide to vacation with that couple. So what’s the worst thing that could happen? You come back home and you’re not friends with that couple anymore! Ok, so maybe that’s a little dramatic (after all, a friendship shouldn’t be broken that easily), but there are easy ways to guarantee you’ll want to travel with that couple again.

Our neighbors, Stephanie and Brandon, became two of our best friends a few years ago. We quickly bonded over our love for adventure, good times, and lame jokes. After months of daydreaming, Stephanie and I proposed a vacation overseas to our husbands. They were on board.

Luckily, we had already experienced some weekend getaways together (which I highly recommend before tackling a 10 day vacation all together), and knew our travel styles and comfort levels. But nonetheless, we made sure to follow the steps below.

1. Talk Budget

It’s imperative that you are on the same page as your traveling buddies, and that includes budget. Traveling together will require a little give and take, but if you agree on a budget, you’re off to a great start. The budget, alone, can determine what kind of vacation you have together.

When we decided to travel to Ireland and London with our neighbors, we quickly determined that they would be taking a second “leg” of the trip that we wouldn’t be able to pull off. Our trip was 10 days long, and they continued to more European cities for another 10 days after that. Instead of stressing over our limited time and budget, we were on the same page from the very beginning.

London, Big Ben, Marriott, Travel

2. Plan Together

Maybe one of you is a planner and the other is not, or maybe you’re both control freaks. No matter what, you must plan together. I’m not saying you have to narrow down every last minute of the trip together, but you do have to be on the same page! (Common theme, here 😉 )

Stephanie and I are both planners and we tackled different aspects of the Ireland and London trip. I spent hours looking up the majority of the hotels we stayed in, and she researched a lot of the details (everything from the weight of our luggage to the highlights in every city). We also got to agree to do something or not do something. We both felt prepared for the trip and knew what to expect. And lucky for us, our husbands are easy-going and enjoy staying out of the planning process.

3. Share a Room

Yep! Save that money and room together! After all, you’re traveling with another couple, so why not split the cost?

  • I only recommend this if you’re totally comfortable doing it.
  • When finding rooms that we would share during our vacation, we looked for larger rooms. We even won the jackpot when we found a hotel in London that had two queen beds and two full bathrooms! This allowed us to split the cost of the hotel room, but still have some of our own privacy.

London, Marriott, double bathroom

4. Stay Separately

Yep! I also strongly encourage you to spend a night or two in your own rooms! If you’re anything like me, you need a little extra space at the end of a busy day. We knew we would be spending just about every waking hour together during our European adventures, so having a few nights in our own room was essential.

  • Allow yourself some time apart from your spouse, too! In London, Stephanie and I headed to the hotel bar while the boys watched a game in the room.
  • When we went on a week long cruise together, we knew 7 nights in a small stateroom could get to be a bit much for the four of us to share. We agreed to booking rooms right next to each other. The balconies opened up to each other allowing us to have fun being “neighbors” and still have the comfort of our own space.
  • In Dublin, we booked an AirBnB with two bedrooms. This was another great way to stay together, but have our own space.

 

5. Be Flexible + Respectful

I believe that whether you’re traveling in a big group or alone, you must be flexible when you travel. Things don’t always go as planned, and at times, you’ll get curve balls thrown in your day. Take a deep breath and adapt to the cards you’re handed. Being flexible will make your trip more enjoyable, no matter what. Remember to communicate with respect. It goes a long way.

When you’re traveling with another couple (or group of friends), you’re bound to have different opinions on where to eat, what to do, or how to spend your time. It’s okay to go on a walking tour while the other couple goes on the bus tour. You’re allowed to split up when shopping along the same few blocks. Let them pick the restaurant for dinner, because tomorrow is your turn!

Ireland, Hike, Diamond Hill, Travel Buddies

6. Rely on Each Other

A wonderful benefit of traveling with another couple is being able to rely on one another for different situations. Like traveling with a group, you can immediately feel safer when going overseas with some friends. Everyone brings something to the table, so let yourself rely on your friend (or you take the lead), when it’s appropriate. It will make your friendship that much stronger, too.

For our trip to Ireland, we chose to rent a car. And if you’ve ever driven in Ireland, then you know it’s already a half crazy idea, but we were feeling brave. Let’s just say we stuck Brandon behind the wheel for 95% of the driving because he was the only one we trusted to drive “on the wrong side of the road”. It wasn’t until we were returning the car, without any damage (to it or ourselves), that he admitted to being relieved everyone was okay!

 

Ultimately, traveling with another couple is one of the best ways to experience a vacation. You get the best of both worlds, and at the end of the day, you’ve created memories that will last a lifetime. When you make an effort to stay on the same page as your traveling buddies, everything goes smoother.

 

Have you traveled (or would you travel) with another couple? Tell me your thoughts!

 

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  • Brittney Kubicki

    Wow! Two full bathrooms sounds unheard of in the UK and Europe! When I was a FA the bathrooms were always so tiny, I can’t imagine having to share one, two is definitely a score! And yes, I would need a little space too so also doing separate rooms would be super important a few nights for me! It sounds like a wonderful trip!

    • Katherine

      Haha! It was seriously the jackpot!! Our hotel in London was like the complete opposite from our hotel in Galway, Ireland (I’m pretty sure every room was less than 80sqft!) Haha so sharing those rooms were not an option. 😉

  • Gaby Dyson

    I’ve never considered sharing a room with another couple before.. But I suppose it’s a great way to cut costs, providing you get privacy elsewhere on your vacation! Thanks for the tips 🙂

    • Katherine

      Yeah it was intimidating at first, but after a couple hotel stays together, we knew we could handle it! It’s nice because we ended up staying in a nicer hotel in London because we could split the room. 🙂

  • I love this idea! We have only done shorter weekend getaways with friends, but a longer trip would be nice too and keep costs down. Great ideas that apply to just traveling with a partner too.

    • Katherine

      I agree! I’ve realized this post totally applies to traveling with any other person, group, family, etc. 🙂

  • These are such great ideas! Traveling with another couple is so much fun especially if you’ve been friends for a while!

    Belle | One Awesome Momma

    • Katherine

      Yes! It’s made our friendship with Stephanie and Brandon so much stronger! We feel like we’ve known them forever.

  • Anna

    This seems like such a fun idea and such great tips. I like how you suggested to stay together and spend some nights in your own rooms. Great idea!

    • Katherine

      Oh, yes. A little alone time is always much needed for the longer trips. 😉 Haha

  • Traveling with another couple can be stressful if you all aren’t on the same page financially. I love love love traveling with friends but it’s good to have an idea of what the expectations are for the trip before hand so no one is disappointed or strained financially.

    • Katherine

      Exactly! It’s so important to be honest about expectations from the second your start planning. 🙂

  • Point #5 it’s so important! I have traveled with people that aren’t flexible and it’s so annoying! Like come on, you aren’t alone. Great tips!

    • Katherine

      Ugh, yes! So frustrating when people don’t understand that it requires a little give and take!

  • These are some great tips! I would argue that these tips apply to traveling with another family as well.

    • Katherine

      That’s so true! The “be flexible and respectful” part is SO important for our family vacations.

  • Patricia Conte

    This is a great read and great tips! My husband and I have friends we’d like to travel with, but are not totally sure! Great suggestion for a weekend trip, first!

    • Katherine

      Yes! Try it out for a night or two and feel it out. And it’s that much better if you can just be honest with your friends about your travel styles. Good luck! 🙂

  • Stephanie Wheeler Mechtel

    Reading this reminds me how amazing this trip was and how much fun we had traveling with you guys!! It really was the perfect combination. Where are we going next?? 😂

    • Katherine

      AWWW! Ya’ll are the best and we’re so lucky to have two people that we are so comfortable with. Let’s make a decision for our next trip by the beginning of the year. 😉

  • Taylor Smith

    This is SO fun. I would love to take a vacation with our friends!

    • Katherine

      It’s one of my favorite ways to travel now! 🙂

  • Cathy Nugent

    These are some great tips!! My husband and I have always discussed taking trips with some of our friends, but we always wondered how to make it work. Having a weekend trip first is a great suggestion! 🙂

    • Katherine

      DEFINITELY take a weekend trip first! It’s less intimidating and a great way to decide if you could handle sharing a room for any longer. 🙂

  • Maryal

    This is such a great post – we’re always so hesitant to sign on for trips with other couples because though we love our friends, traveling with friends is a totally different ball game. Thanks for sharing this!

    • Katherine

      Haha, it really is a different game! Trips like cruises are great for first-timers because you can have your own room, and even do different activities throughout the day, but still feel like you’re on vacation together!

  • My husband and I have a couple that are our absolute best friends & we love traveling together. We’ve done a few trips together already & are planning another one soon! For us, we always have to have our own space-but we know that about each other so we always plan accordingly 🙂 Also, we’ve all been friends for years & are super honest with each other so we don’t worry about hurting anyone’s feelings, which I feel helps us have the best time possible!

    xoxo, SS

    Southern and Style

    • Katherine

      That’s so great! It sounds like you’re definitely all on the same page for your traveling styles and that’s so important!! And I get the honesty thing. I love being able to say anything and everything that’s on my mind around our travel couple. 😉

  • lovee this! It would be SO hard for me to share a room though! I think I could get down with a suite, but like what if the other couple snores or something? I just couldnt haha

    • Katherine

      Hahah, I totally get it. My biggest fear is always sharing a bathroom with another guy that’s NOT my husband. Lol, but luckily we have taken enough 1-2 night vacations together that we knew how to share a room together. And, thankfully, nobody snores 😀