You’re Allowed to Break-Up with Your Dreams: How To Know When It’s Time to Let Go

Chase Your Dreams, Change Your Mind, Chasing New Dreams, Letting Go, Follow Your Path #Motivation #Inspiration #GoalGetter#DreamChaser
You're Allowed to Break Up with Your Dreams - How to Know When to Let Go // goals, dreams, daydreams, unfulfilling jobs, dream chaser #motivation #inspiration #encouragement #inspirationalquotes #goalgetter #chasenewdreams #followyourheart #lifestyleblogger #floridablogger #relatable #breakup>

The other night as I was sitting on my couch watching the SAG Awards with a glass of wine in my hand and my husband next to me. I thought about how I used to dream of being an actor attending award shows, walking the red carpet, and being nominated for Best Performance by a Female Actor. It was a dream I chased for almost an entire decade.

If you follow me on Twitter, then you had a glimpse into what inspired this post. For the first time watching an award show for film and television, I felt so content just watching. I leaned over to my husband and told him, “I love what I do”. Because after nearly ten years of pursuing an actor’s dream, I let it go to chase a different dream. It was intimidating to admit that acting didn’t fulfill me anymore, but none of us should ever waste our days just going through the motions.

 

Teenage Dream

I attended my first acting class when I was 14. I booked my first 35mm student film (meaning I did it for free) when I was 17. At 19, I moved to Orlando to attend university and hopefully make it to more auditions. At 21, I booked some print work and small commercial roles. For several years, I attended monthly or weekly acting classes (which are still the only thing I truly miss) and I felt pretty damn good when I booked something, no matter how small. I went through this same routine for years.

 

Time to Let it Go

But something changed. My agent would call, and a shock of anxiety would rush through my body. I’d drive to auditions with tears in my eyes. I felt nauseous walking into a casting room and a rush of relief would flood my body when I walked out. I’d sit in a green room on set and feel miserable. What was wrong with me?!

And then it hit me. I didn’t like what I was doing anymore. I hated the auditions, I disliked the judgment every time I walked into an audition, and I despised the way I judged myself. Even when I booked something, my soul wasn’t satisfied. It was like I was chasing this dream because I didn’t know anything else.

There seems to be this stigma around letting go of something before you’ve accomplished it. Like, if someone doesn’t succeed exactly as they’ve expected, they feel they have failed. I refused to feel that way about this. Why would I want to keep pursuing something that left me so empty inside?

Does any of this sound familiar to you? Is there a “dream” you’re chasing that gives you more anxiety and stress than pleasure? Do you wake up feeling lost, but keep going through your routine? Are you scared to tell your loved ones that something you wanted so bad doesn’t light the fire inside you anymore? Hey, it’s okay to admit it. 🙋

 

The Break-Up

That’s exactly what it felt like. Letting go of that dream was like breaking up with a relationship I struggled to make work for nearly 10 years. But when you think about it, relationships don’t work unless you do. And I wasn’t working hard enough in this relationship because I didn’t care enough. I gave this dream my whole heart when I wanted it, but falling out of love is a real thing. It took months of contemplation, tears, and meditation to accept that I wasn’t “giving up” on my dream, but that I was whole-heartedly letting it go because I didn’t love it anymore.

Breaking up with anything, or anyone, in life can be terrifying. Many of us thrive on being comfortable or doing what we “know”. But isn’t it much worse to live a life that doesn’t bring us satisfaction and joy?

It's okay to change paths. At the end of the day, your happiness is a priority and you should never be chasing a dream just because it's what you've always done. Letting go takes courage.Click To Tweet

And suddenly, I felt free. I had an education, a comfortable office job, a new husband, and the world in my hands. For the first time in my life, I felt like I could do anything I wanted to do.

 

Chasing a New Dream: The Weekend Fox

The desire to start a travel and lifestyle blog was something that had been sparking inside of me for 2 years before I actually launched The Weekend Fox. It’s scary starting something new. As much as I wasn’t enjoying acting, I knew the process. I knew what to expect at my auditions, how to practice my craft, and who to trust along the way. So diving into the blogging world was a world of unknown. It took me several months to take the tiniest steps, but with a good coach and mentor, I took my sweet time adjusting to this new dream.

There are no rules for chasing your dreams. If you have the passion and desire to pursue something, then you're already one step ahead. Follow your own path and be kind to the process.Click To Tweet

And now that the 9-5 dream has dissipated, I’m chasing the full-time blogger life and I’ve never worked harder in my life. I feel a rush of excitement when I hit “publish” on a new post. Connecting with my readers, and other bloggers, fills my soul and keeps me pushing for bigger and better. I finally feel like I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing and that is the greatest feeling in the world.

 

Follow Your Heart

As humans, we continue to grow, develop, experience new things, and feel. Our dreams, passions, and desires are allowed to develop with us. Life-changing events could totally alter our direction and that’s okay. Change your mind. And then change your mind again.

I will never allow myself to feel trapped by a dream again. If one day I wake up and realize I’m a miserable blogger with no passion, heart, happiness, or drive, I’ll immediately address those issues. And I’m not saying every time I go through a “funk” I’m going to throw away a dream and start something new, but I refuse to waste my days just going through the motions. Don’t settle. your heart.

Life is too short to chase anything that doesn't light a fire inside of you.Click To Tweet

 

If you take one thing away from this post, know that letting go of your dreams does not mean you failed…

It means you have courage and you’re brave.

 

The Weekend Fox Advice:

  • Don’t make drastic, impulsive decisions, but acknowledge your feelings and desires. Write them down. Figure out the why.
  • Talk to someone you trust. My husband and parents are my support team. I always confide in them and listen to their perspective.
  • Eliminate the “noise” from other people that don’t matter in your life. I saw a Facebook status from an old high school acquaintance that bashed those of us that chose to create a life in our hometown. As if, because we didn’t move across the country or backpack through Europe, we were failures at life. It bothered me, at first. And then I remembered that their opinion isn’t allowed to have any control over my life.
  • Your dreams cannot be too big or too small. They are your dreams.
  • It’s never too late to change your mind, take risks, work harder, learn more, or choose happiness.

Dream, Chase Your Dreams, Change Your Mind, Chasing New Dreams, Letting Go, Follow Your Path #Motivation #Inspiration #GoalGetter #DreamChaser

Break Up, Chase Your Dreams, Change Your Mind, Chasing New Dreams, Letting Go, Follow Your Heart #Motivation #Inspiration #GoalGette r#DreamChaser

 

 

So happy you're here!

I'm Katherine. A weekend lover & world traveler. My adventures have taken me around the globe, but I call Florida & Bulgaria "home". My life has had twists & turns that I never expected, but it's made me believe in endless amounts of self-love & a lot less settling.

Explore by Topic

Leave a Comment

  1. 1.25.18

    Such a great post Katherine. I can relate to letting go and being ok with it. It is a process. Following your heart is key. Thank you for sharing yours.

  2. 1.25.18

    I can relate a lot to what you said here. I never seriously pursued acting, but I do community theater and I was putting so much pressure on myself to try and get good parts all the time or get into the really good shows. And I had that same anxiety and fear and awful feeling when I didn’t get it. I was letting it define my worth. And I realized it wasn’t enjoyable. Now I’ll occasionally audition for a show as long as I remind myself that I’m okay not doing it too. I have to view it only as a fun hobby, and not something which defines me.

    • 1.28.18

      YES! It was controlling how worthy I felt which is so ridiculous and even when I booked something, I was so empty. It was never worth the reward, to me, which is when I realized it wasn’t what I was meant to do. And I feel ya on still auditioning now and then! I recently had a commercial casting and got a callback right away. It was such a different feeling going in without the pressure and emotion. Wishing you the best with your new dreams! <3

  3. 1.25.18
    Lyndsey Piccolino said:

    I can relate so much to this. I’ve changed careers so many times because I never want to settle for something I’m not passionate about!

    • 1.28.18

      I love hearing that!! I hope more people will do the same instead of settling for something that doesn’t fulfill them. Xo

  4. 1.25.18

    I really needed to see this….

    I recently felt like I needed to re evaluate my career and dreams but I also didn’t want to “quit” so I’m glad that I saw this because it’s confirmed a lot of my own thoughts! THANK YOU! 💕💕

    • 1.28.18

      Aw, thank YOU! I’m so happy to hear that and I know it can be scary, but you know yourself better than anyone else. Listen to your heart and let that lead the way. <3

  5. 1.25.18

    Aweee i love this post!! I am so proud that you took the leap to chase new dreams! I know how many different directions you thought your life would go to this point and it’s SO beautiful seeing you settle into this new path <3

    • 1.28.18

      Thank you!!! That means the world to me and I can never thank you enough for being a strong role model and fierce boss babe to help guide me when I’m feeling lost or insecure. I’ll never stop learning from you! <3

  6. 1.25.18

    I SO needed to read this because I’ve been feeling this more and more. I dreamed of being a YouTuber and working in fashion, but those dreams changed slightly. I still do a little fashion on my blog, but I don’t have a dream to live and work in NYC anymore like I used to. I don’t want to be a YouTube full time anymore. And that’s completely okay when your dreams change!

    • 1.28.18

      Exactly! You’re never a failure if your dreams happen to change. You’re brave for letting them go and re-focusing on something that brings more light into heart and mind. Proud of you! Go kick some butt with your new dreams <3 <3

  7. 1.25.18
    Theresa Bailey said:

    You only get one life so make the most of it! I totally agree that if you have the means to do so, then go for a new dream.

  8. 1.25.18

    Yes! Dreams absolutely can change and it’s okay to change with them! There’s no harm in that!

    • 1.28.18

      Absolutely. It can be intimidating, but the courage it takes to take on a new dream is much more rewarding than chasing a dream that leaves you empty inside. <3

  9. 1.25.18
    Nikki Gwin said:

    I have recently given up on a dream, but for different reasons. I just realized that our ages make it necessary to change the dreams to more realistic ones. I am glad you are pursuing a new dream.
    🙂 gwingal

    • 1.28.18

      I think that’s a really good point. Usually our dreams from 6 to even 16 change and we never think twice about it. I believe you truly mold to your surroundings, life events, and choices. Thank you for reading!

  10. 1.25.18
    Messy Cutting Board said:

    I NEEDED this post!! I mean I broke up with being a dental technician after 12 years in the field in 2016, I was good at my job but miserable dreaded going to work everyday. I started my food blog in 2015 as a hobby but it was my true passion, I could spend hours working without feeling like it is work!! But! Still I crave my scrubs, the intriguing talks with the patients, and being around weird tooth loving people. So recently I decided I could still put my skills to use on my terms, I would just volunteer my time and skills to charity dental events (it’s more fulfilling, and I don’t have to deal with the politics of the medical field). Why can’t a girl have her cake and eat it too?

    • 1.28.18

      Aw!! Thank you for reading and I’m SO happy this post could reassure you of the badass babe you are! And being able to volunteer is amazing and you’re an incredible person for still offering your knowledge and skills to help others. You obviously have the biggest heart and you’re fulfilling multiple dreams which is wonderful to hear!! Eat that cake, girl. Enjoy every bite! 😉

  11. 1.25.18
    Sarah Emily said:

    I think that it is so easy to drown in other peoples thoughts/opinions because they are constantly being shared however, once you really realize that their opinions are not what matters, it is so much easier to see things!

    • 1.28.18

      Yes, yes, yes! It’s so true. Drowning out the noise from others was an imperative part of chasing new dreams, for me.

  12. 1.25.18
    Gabby Young said:

    I think that’s such an important narrative! Yes, follow your dreams relentlessly but ONLY if they still make you happy!

  13. 1.26.18
    Mary said:

    I love that last thought, it’s never too late! Great inspiration!

  14. 1.26.18
    Keri Siciliano said:

    Finding a new dream is all about allowing yourself to grow. I love it! Also, it reminds me of Tangled, one of my favorite movies. 🙂

    • 1.28.18

      Aw, I love Tangled, too! I hope we all never stop growing, even if one chooses to chase the same dream forever. I think that’s wonderful advice!

  15. 1.26.18
    Lisa Laker said:

    Peoples opinions used to control my life too until a client of mine posted on facebook about how hiding our talents are really taking away God’s glory. At that point I decided that what I do with my life is for His glory and nobody else’s.

    • 1.28.18

      Aw, I love that! Isn’t it amazing how Facebook can be a dark hole or a wonderful light?! So happy you’re finding your path. <3

  16. 1.26.18
    Taylor Smith said:

    This is an awesome post. I totally get what you are saying!!!

  17. 1.26.18
    Rachel Loza said:

    This is super insightful! I’ve been holding on to something for a while and it’s time to let it go!

  18. 1.27.18

    This is so true! Sometimes our dreams are no longer our dreams. We have to be okay with saying goodbye, letting go, and moving on to our new dreams and passions.

    • 1.28.18

      EXACTLY! There can be a grieving process, but in the end, it’s the greatest decision to chase whatever fills up your soul. <3

  19. 1.28.18
    Stephanie Wheeler Mechtel said:

    I think so many people push through their unhappiness because there is such a bad stigma for “failing” but life is too short to waste your time on something that doesn’t make you happy anymore. We are all constantly changing and it is ok when dreams change too! I remember when I was in gymnastics so many people continued the sport even after you could tell their heart wasn’t in it anymore. I know it is hard to “break up” with your dream but I think this outlook makes it a little easier. That dream will still always be a part of us, it is just a separate chapter. You are very insightful!